A friend asked me recently to share about my creative process. How did I get to this point in my life where I've created my own unique form of Astrology Coaching, I'm writing songs and performing, creating workshops, products and programs and pretty much making up my career...and my life...as I go? What are some tools that I utilize to tap into and unleash my creativity? At first, I was at a bit of a loss to answer this question..."I color in my free time?" (as in, in coloring books...) was my initial response. :/ Far from satisfied with my answer, I've been reflecting a lot on my creative process in the weeks that have followed that conversation, and here's what I've been discovering.
Let's face it: Life in all of it's miraculous wonder can be scary shit sometimes. The risk of failure appears to loom large around every corner. There is rejection, and heartbreak, and disappointment, and loss, and grief...and then more grief, and then a little bit more. The creative process looks at all of these thoughts about life, all of the painful experiences and the scary unknowns, loves them up, transforms them, and then, breathes new life.
The concept of "failure" doesn't actually fit into the vocabulary of the creative process, because well, creativity is, um, a process. :) Creativity isn't something that you get "right"--it's something that you practice at again and again and again. It's a journey. Far from being about arriving at some destination, creativity is a way of life. It is about diving into the muddiness head first and getting really, really messy. The creative process requires us to take the path that isn't safe, that could hurt a little bit...or a lot...in order to discover great joy. It asks that we leave our comfort zones checked at the back door and embrace a life of feeling all of our feelings...diving into grief, and despair, and longing, and joy and wonder, living through those feelings and discovering the beauty that exists in every corner of our existence. Yes, when I write a song, when I ACTUALLY finish a song, there is a sense of arriving at a destination. I feel a deep sense of gratitude and completion for what I have birthed into the world. But the song is not actually done until I love it, until it feels like a true authentic expression of what I'm trying to share, and even then, it is just one step along my continual process of becoming.
I choose not to live my life safely. I've had my heart broken, I've been financially destitute, I've felt deeply alone and deeply connected. The specifics of my own creative journey are mine and mine alone--you do not have to become financially destitute in order to be creative, for example (that was really just poor planning on my part and a great topic for another day...;), but in order to create, we do have to surrender what we know for what we are about to discover. In order to create a new horizon, I've had to risk walking away from the one I've known in order to create the next one. People might think I'm fearless, which can only make me laugh. Courageous, yes. Fearless...I don't think so.
I've learned to make my fear a tool for creation. When I choose to question my fear and to understand it, my fear can become my greatest ally in the process. Once I understand all that I am afraid of and what is so scary about moving forward, I've tapped into what is real. For me, once I get to the truth and I get really honest and real with myself, that is when I'm "plugged in" and the creative juices are really flowing. It takes courage to face, question and then befriend our fears--the days when I'm willing to do that are usually the days when I create something beautiful.
Other things that I've learned:
1) I have to make a lot of time to observe life, to listen to my inner voice and simply be. (This is where taking time to color comes in, as well as regular journaling, taking walks, sitting in cafes, drawing forth wisdom from my goddess cards, allowing myself to have days with no agenda, etc.) When I'm busy doing all of the time, living in a state of mental distraction, I become closed off from inspiration. The first step in creation is for us to become receptacles, conduits for the Universe/God/Spirit/Source to fill us up and ignite our inner voice, the longing within us to birth something uniquely ours. The second step is to then willingly take the risk to walk (or in some cases, leap) toward that longing.
2) The act of creation is not actually a solo effort. We co-create every aspect of our lives with this beautiful Universe in which we are a part. Creativity requires that we take the risk to grow in our sense of trust that we are loved by every process unfolding in our lives. It requires that we let go of our need to be in control in order to discover that we are constantly cradled by all of existence. Along this same line, it is crucial that we fill our lives with people who we love and love us, who nurture us and make all kinds of space for us to show up fully as we are. It is so important that we have relationships in our lives that we can plug into and both receive and feel useful. Part of opening ourselves up for inspiration means that we are choosing to share who we are honestly in the world and taking the risk to become truly connected to the people around us. Love and Truth in all of their forms are the life-blood of creativity.
3) Feeling all of our emotions can scare us and make us feel "off balance" at times, but that's the beauty of life. Just like our bodies are constantly working to maintain homeostasis, the Universe is doing the same. Allowing yourself to feel whatever it is that you need to feel puts you in balance with the larger flow of existence. It is in this flow that the magical process of creativity happens. Getting "off-balance" on our path to deeper fulfillment is far from being off-balance with the flow of life.
4) Taking really good care of myself--taking care of my body with good food and exercise and sleep, honoring my inner "yes's" and "no's" in my relationships, being flexible and giving myself all kinds of permission to honor my internal rhythms--is crucial in feeling confident enough to take leaps into the creative unknown. Taking yummy, good care of myself is like preparing the soil to plant and harvest my beautiful garden.
5) The biggest challenge to creativity is the human mind--I can get hugely in my own way with thoughts of "right" vs. "wrong," "good" & "bad." What I'm creating is certainly something that I hope will be of loving benefit to the world, but I can get stopped in my tracks when I start thinking about, "what others will think." If I like what I've created then I know it's exactly what it needs to be. If you find yourself getting all blocked up for fear of not being good enough, be honest with yourself and use that fear as a tool...journal about it, seek to understand what is so scary and use that fear as fuel for your creation. Again, what is most important is that YOU feel glorious about your own creation. Allow yourself to relish in that. My song "Mr. Shame" is a good one that addresses a lot of this stuff:
K, that's enough for now. Many blessings to you as you continue to create your wild, messy, and deeply satisfying lives. If you need help getting out of the way of your creative process...shoot me an email, and we'll talk about it. :)
Much love,
Melissa Simonson
Founder & CEO of JoyDiva™
Own your worth. Own your wisdom.
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